I watched a clip on marriage the other day and the man was speaking about "Our reactions are our responsibility." His words apply to life, not just marriage. No one can 'make' us be angry, or mean, or bitter or snotty. If someone does something that hurts or we don't like, what comes out of us is what was in us in the first place. His illustration was that if we step on a rose, it releases a beautiful fragrance. If we step on a skunk, it stinks... badly. It wasn't the 'stepping on' that caused the scents. The 'stepping on' only released the properties that were already there.

I get to chose whether I'll be a rose or a skunk. Although I'd prefer to just never be stepped on.